If this were a beauty pageant, how would you introduce yourself?
I think I’m on the wrong stage. Is there a conference on queer activism in the 21st century in this hotel?
When did you stop believing in Santa Claus?
Jewish – never did believe in Santa. And I think the idea of lying to children – even in the interest of joy – is problematic. The world is wonderful enough without Santa.
What’s something that almost no one knows or that you usually don’t tell people about yourself?
I’m not sure. I’m pretty open. Possibly to a fault.
What you think is our culture’s biggest hang up with sex and dating?
Imagining that sex and dating are the same thing. There’s a Venn Diagram, they overlap, but aren’t as on top of each other as people think. (Obligatory “that’s what she said.”)
How do you think we can foster world peace?
Encourage people to think of how their actions impact others. Simply said, very difficult to do.
What are you long-term goals?
Financial stability, happiness, lots of good friends. Oh, and a unicorn who speaks with a British accent.
If you had to stay in on a Friday night alone or with someone special, how would you spend it?
How would I spend it? Probably high watching Netflix streaming. How would I like to think I’d spend it? Building an amazing pillow fort to protect us from the world and in which to cuddle.
When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
Female. More than anything. Most of the way there.
What turns you on in a sex partner?
Dommes… I’m a classic domme in the streets, bottom in the sheets. Yum!
Did your parents ever catch you having sex or masturbating?
Worse. In the days of dial up Internet, I accidentally dialed a sex website in Africa, resulting in a $300 phone bill. We had a long discussion about healthy life choices… (And the porn on the site wasn’t even that good!)
What are the lessons you learned from your most significant relationship?
Honesty is the best policy. Even if it’s hard. Even if you’re second-guessing yourself. Even if you know it isn’t what your partner wants to hear. Tell the truth now – it’ll make things better later.
What’s your ideal first date?
Laughter and companionship. Ideally somewhere exciting – flying a kite, at a museum, building with LEGOs – but I’ll take good food and drink, too.
What are your dealbreakers in a partner?
Someone without passion. I don’t so much care about what, as long as it’s there.
Are you a dog person or a cat person and why?
Um, both? Because they’re both awesome?
What’s one thing you want to tell the world?
See #6 – think of how your actions impact others! My corner of the world deals with trans rights, but it’s a larger message.
What TV show could you spend all day watching?
Sooo many….Archer, Wonder Years, Scrubs, Greys Anatomy…could and have spent all day watching.
How do you see your life when you are older?
I avoided thinking about the future…the present was pretty miserable, and I expected the future to be much of the same. How glad I am to have been wrong!
If you could be famous for only one thing, what would it be?
Serious answer: Trans rights activism. Joke answer: Disgustingly, filthy rich.
What would your superpower be?
Boring answer: Shapeshifting. Creative answer: Being able to go without sleep, but still being able to sleep if I wanted to. So much more time to get work done!
How much is that doggy in the window?
The one with the waggly tail? Oh, I do hope that doggy’s for sale!
What’s the most imaginative way you’ve ever been asked out?
There’s been a disappointing lack of imagination in how people have asked me out. I’ve been asked out in pretty simple, traditional ways.
At gunpoint, if you had to pick one of the current GOP candidates to be our future president, who would it be and why?
Oh, god, just shoot me.
What was the first life lesson you ever learned?
Reading through the night will keep the fears at bay.
Big spoon or little spoon?
For cuddling? Depends on the situation. If my world was just rocked, little spoon. If I just rocked someone’s world, big spoon. For soup? Big spoon. (Duh!) For hot chocolate? Little spoon.
What’s the most important thing to you in a relationship?
Finish the phrase: I could never be with someone who _______________.